I'm familiar with the geometry of the various stereo techniques, and I have accomplished some of these arrangements in my living room/studio with stage style mic stands and/or gaffer tape and/or my own constructions (I'm a woodworker/handyguy type dude)

But I'd like to go ahead with an actual show-taper kind of rig with the tall mic stand and stereo mounting bar etc. But I'm lost as far as the nitty gritty on this kind of setup. Most of the discussion here on TS starts at a knowledge/jargon level that is over my head. So a sort of 101 course or tutorial/primer that goes over the super basics would be a huge help. Is there something around that I missed?
I'm looking for info like:
What makes a decent stand and what are good brands?
Same with stereo bar?
Same with shock mounts?
How does everything fasten together?
How is the alignment for the various stereo geometries accomplished?
Yup, basic stuff like that

Seems like this kind of info would have been compiled before?
Any help much appreciated.
Peace,
Sanaka
Edit: Hey, it's my 100th post!