noahbickart, when someone openly disagrees with me, they're taking what I say seriously, and I appreciate that. Even when I'm making wisecracks, on some deeper level I'm saying something (probably very boring) that I happen to think is true.
You're describing a basically different approach to M/S, is the thing, and as I'm sure you realize, and ultimately our difference of opinion is about that difference in approach. You're setting up an M and an S microphone, matrixing their signals to L/R stereo after the preamp, and recording the L/R stereo result. I'm setting up (as I believe the original poster is also doing) an M and an S microphone, leaving their signals as M and S, preamplifying and recording that--and then going home and processing the M and S signals to L/R stereo later on, while monitoring through loudspeakers. So I end up making two recordings, and if the second one doesn't pan out (no pun unintended), I can always go back to the first one (the M/S original) and do the "post-processing" work over.
My real problem is that some 40 years into this game, I've still never learned the knack of balancing stereo image width vs. reverberation balance while listening to headphones. I'm not sure that I could ever learn to do it. After getting it wrong a few times early on, I gave up trying. By recording the M and S signals in "raw" form I can set the ratio of M to S at the matrix inputs as well as the other pre-matrix processing I typically do, such as bass-boosting the M-channel signal [ETA: whoops--as Tom McCreadie points out below, I meant to write "bass-boosting the S-channel signal"], all while monitoring the result over loudspeakers. I don't have to commit to any particular set of settings until the result feels right and sounds right.
But it certainly is nice to go home and feel that your recording is basically finished, and all that's left to do is some trimming and putting in the fades and duplicating the CDs and/or mp3 files for the clients. If there's a pill that I could take, I'd consider taking it.
And one thing I've found--I think we probably agree implicitly about this--is that there usually is only one M:S ratio setting (or at most a very narrow range of such settings) that sounds good for any given loudspeaker setup--though it differs markedly if you move the loudspeakers farther apart or put them closer together.
--best regards