I have thought about it and I do share some fault in this, so I have decided to give a full refund including the shipping...
Chris:
In reading about this incident here it seems to me that if you made any mistake it was in accepting the order under the strict conditions imposed upon it. The customer placed the order on September 1st and expected it to be *delivered* by September 18th. Assuming that everything had gone fine on your end, once the order leaves your shop it is out of your hands.
When you accepted the order I'm sure that you assumed that the payment would go through immediately and that you could start on it immediately. When that didn't happen you had to waste time trying to get everything straightened out, rather than spending your time more productively making mics and pre's.
In any case, had I been on the jury I would have voted for you- it would have been very reasonable if you would have just sent a second set of mics to Germany once the customer confirmed the shipping address to cut your losses. Your decision to give your customer a full refund is not just the high road, but way over and beyond the call of duty. You are to be commended!
Lessons to be learned from this whole incident:
1. The customer should figure that it'll take at least a month or so to receive a quality handmade product like the ones that you offer.
2. Most eBay sellers will only ship to the address on the PayPal account and you learned that the hard way, having to eat the cost of the order which was damaged in being shipped back to you, and having to waste a lot of time dealing with this issue.
3. It was also interesting to learn that when a package is returned to the sender it is not insured as the original shipment was. You would think that the insurance would cover the shipment until it was either delivered to the customer or returned to the vendor...
Just my opinion on things. It'll be great when you get your web site up and running since you'll be able to post explanations and disclaimers for all of this sh*t.
Steve__A
P.S. In reading the customer's post my first thought was that he or she was lucky to have not ordered a Dumble guitar amp since the lead time on them was reportedly anywhere from 6 months to several years. And in the signed agreement with Mr. Dumble, if you bother him at all while waiting for your order, you are liable to have your order canceled and the entire prepayment forfeited. "I will wait patiently without disturbing Dumble and will not in any manner interrupt and/or impede Dumble..." Geez, that sounds more like the government than a business!