...SquarePlug XLRs, since they are significantly larger than the metal shell of a Neutrik XX.
fyi the SquarePlug at the bottom of my pic is in a baggy with a couple of cord grips, which make it look longer than it is, but maybe you already noticed this.
Re:Gotham caps, I have only seen their $35 chopped neutriks. They look nice, but $140 for a stereo pair that you have to solder yourself seems like Schoeps territory. Do they sell just the caps?
It's easy to make epoxy look nice -- just add a little extra so that it forms a meniscus, and then don't touch it until it completely cures (or you'll lose the nice finish by breaking the surface tension). These days I first fill around the connections with hot glue to block the epoxy from getting into the release button/spring area, though it sometimes still finds a way in and blocks the button. Then I add epoxy on top. On the XLR-M's, there's no release button, but epoxy will drip down into the thing that catches the release on the XLR-F, so I put a tiny but of hot glue there to block it.
I use Mica powder to color the epoxy black. Not totally necessary as clear is pretty camouflaged against the black connectors. A tiny bit goes a long way.
I actually really like the epoxy (when I don't screw it up and get it into the release button), as it seals around all of the connections and insulates them. It's not user-serviceable, but you can yank on the little cables and none of the connections move. It's just a pain to work with.
For right angle connections, I drilled a hole in the side of the connector, but when I make more I will use a milling machine to make a slot instead of a hole. That way I can solder the connections and then slide them into the Neutrik housing, rather than having to solder with the housing in place (which was not fun).