i'm with you bud, sometimes unless you understand terms the threads can be more confussing then helpful
here are some cables that could help you patch
dual rca > 1/8
dual 1/4 > 1/8
dual xlr (not sure if its female or male--think male) > 1/8
T link optical > mini optical
many people just get 1 cable then different adapters to make all the different connections
myself however find it easier and have the mental belief that not using adaptors will give you better connections and less chance for error
welcome aboard