i'll snap a photo tonight of the stand top with the 5/8" baby stud..can't seem to find any close-ups of it on the web.
and yes, B & H has been great so far. i got the RMA seconds after making a call this AM and got the UPS return label about an hour ago. just frustrating to go 0 for 3 on small parts. i told the customer service rep to make a note to have them check the warehouse inventory because i'm guessing someone just put all of the wrong parts in the wrong bags for the adapters.
if the replacement adapter has the same issue, though, i'm going to be searching for something similar with a lowered machined screw hole...