As for male or female, can someone show me an example where an output on a non custom job is female? Male usually goes out and female goes in, just like god made it. Thats why they refer to it like that. It is early in the morngin and I have had no coffee, so if I'm backward about that let me know.
I would like to see a female xlr that sends a signal as well.
Just follow this very simple rule: signal flows from the male into the female.
To patch an xlr from the board, you hand the foh the female xlr. What you have on your end is up to you. In the original poster's question, fxlr>rca will work just fine.