For the type of bands you record, and to reach as many people as possible, I think there's really only one option: Dime-A-Dozen. After that, probably TTD (why do you have mixed emotions?). No BT tracker has perfect mods, is perfectly run, with perfect policies, and perfect leechers, and perfect seeders. Accept them for what they are - warts and all - and do what you want to do: share the music.